I’ve always been a huge college football fan. As a southerner, let me tell you that college football is almost a religion down here. When you move to or visit a southern state you are not asked where you live as often as you’re asked which team you pull for. I’m a University of South Carolina girl and in South Carolina you are either a Clemson fan or a South Carolina fan. Here in North Carolina you are either pulling for Duke, UNC, or NC State. And, regardless of your team of choice, your team will either have a good season, a decent season, or a bad season.
Rarely can one predict exactly what kind of season their team will have. A star player can be injured. A team can be full of freshmen after graduating off all of their all-star seniors. This season’s schedule could be particularly tough. Whatever a season brings, it will be an adventure for the dedicated fan. Case in point – the recent Rose Bowl and Sugar Bowl where #3 Georgia beat #2 Oklahoma and #4 Alabama beat #1 Clemson. Neither of these wins were predicted (but WOW what awesome games they were!) . . . and, on a side note, my Gamecocks beat Michigan, which was also an upset!
All of this to say that seasons come, and seasons go. But none of these seasons last forever, nor do they define the team. If they did, I’d be miserable as a Gamecock fan because we’ve had way more bad seasons than good ones. Thank heavens for new seasons where we have hope for a brighter future!
What does this have to do with marriage? Quite a bit, actually. Marriage goes through seasons as well. Think back to that newlywed season and all of the mushy feelings you had. Now think back to having a newborn in the house and the sleepless nights that season brought you. Or, think of that season when you weren’t sure if you even loved your spouse anymore and the passion was gone. Yea . . . thank goodness seasons don’t last forever. If you can recall these seasons, then you can agree with me that they came and they went.
I think many of our marriage struggles come from a false belief that the difficult season our marriage is having right now is going to last forever. It won’t. I promise you that if you and your spouse decide to move into a better season in your marriage, you will.
We can’t help some circumstances that throw us into a difficult season of life: illness, death, financial issues, unemployment, or any other crisis. But, we can help how we respond to the circumstance. We can pull together as a team and come up with a plan to get beyond this season and into the next one. We can make a choice to have a healthy season, a season of growth in our marriage. We can be determined to not let this difficult season define our marriage, but we can learn from the situation and grow closer together in the process.
This won’t stop the difficult seasons from coming, but if we remain a healthy team we can overcome them. So, my dear friends, what season is your marriage in today? How can you and your spouse be a stronger and healthier team?
Wishing you all many blessings in 2018!