In 2011 my world was turned upside down when my husband declared that he wanted us to separate. It literally hit me like a ton of bricks and out of absolutely nowhere. Fast forward to this very day and I can tell you that many hours of counseling, lots of prayer, and a ton of quality communication has led us to a very healthy place in our marriage. It was a difficult journey that didn’t have to be what it was if we had the tools we have today. Looking back I wish with all of my heart that my church offered something to help nourish and strengthen marriages. Maybe if my husband and I had that type of support things could have been different.
I am an ordained United Methodist clergy woman and I’ve been married to my husband, Steve, since 1996. We have a daughter who was born in 1999 and a son who was born in 2003. These days Steve and I are in a much better place. Actually, I’d say that we are better than we have ever been. I’m sure that has come from the things we learned in counseling and the hurdles we have been able to jump and survive. But, I do believe with all of my heart that we are getting out of it what we have put into it – and that is a LOT (a lot of love, patience, prayer, time, energy, thoughtfulness . . .). Marriage is work and we are committed to working on it every single day.
It was the struggle in my marriage that prompted me to begin a marriage ministry at Williamson’s Chapel UMC. It was this ministry that led me to create this blog. This marriage ministry has been such a blessing to me and to those it has served (and it’s still growing!). Hopefully, the wisdom that comes from our ministry can pour into this blog and help other couples beyond our church walls. Please feel free to comment on posts here and even to subscribe – that’s what this is here for.
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Blessings upon you and your marriage,
Rev. Monica Humpal