I went for a run the other day and saw a scene that made my heart melt. A family was moving in to a house (a guess based on the U-Haul truck parked on the street) and there were boxes on the sidewalk and driveway along with kids running around squealing with excitement. No, wait, it wasn’t kids squealing, it was . . . yes . . . a woman! From behind this U-Haul came a dolly being pushed by a man with a mischievous gleam in his eye as his wife (I presume) was standing up on the dolly holding on for dear life. Her eyes were wide, her mouth in a huge open grin, as she squealed with delight as her husband wheeled her all over the sidewalk and down the street on the dolly. I, along with the many kids and other onlookers just stood there with silly grins on our faces watching this couple have some serious fun.
I have no idea what prompted the fun and games with the dolly – perhaps they had a long day of packing and driving and just needed a fun break. Regardless, it was a beautiful sight to behold as the kids watched their parents truly enjoy each other and have fun. It is so incredibly important to have fun in your marriage. It is also super easy to NOT have fun in your marriage. Work, kids, and life in general tend to get in the way. How many times have we planned a vacation only to come home and realize that we spent so much time planning and “doing” that we forgot to have fun along the way? I can certainly relate.
I’d like to encourage you to consider the “fun” in your marriage (or lack thereof). Try to think of one thing you and your spouse can do that would be fun for both of you. For me and my husband it’s playing games together. We choose a game we both like and we have a set “date/time” we get together and play. We also have a motorcycle that we consider “fun” as we ride country roads as the leaves turn colors. Whatever you choose, though, make sure it fits both of your ideas of what “fun” is. Then, yes you guessed it, DO IT!
Sometimes when we are feeling isolated and separate from our spouse it’s not that something is “wrong,” it’s that we’re simply missing one or several important components of a healthy marriage. Fun and enjoying each other is a huge component that we tend to neglect at times (especially when we are super busy). Today, focus on that and see how quickly your marriage can feel more full.